Do I stand a chance at romance?

Dear Ron,

I am divorced after 22 years of marriage. I am 47 years old, 6' 2", 100 lbs overweight, honey blonde hair and balding. I have a sleeping disorder that requires me to wear an air mask. My health is poor. I have Type 2 diabetes that requires medication. I have panic disorder that has made me live an isolated/introverted life for the past eleven years.

I am trying to get a grip on my life and turn it around. Currently I am on disability. Before that I was a fun-loving, successful systems analyst. I was a golf junky. I still am a personal computing junky. I thought that maybe someone would still be interested in someone like me. I feel that men and women come in all sizes, shape and condition. Is there hope for a match for me?

Wondering

Dear Wondering,

That's one hell of a resume. Honesty is one quality you forgot to mention.

And there are surely more attributes that make you a decent, integritable person — attributes that are easy to discount in light of problems looming larger than your ability to see around them.

You're asking me if there's hope for a match for you, because "no" would remove the universal responsibility from your shoulders of trying to meet someone and risking rejection. Instead of answering, I'll ask you three questions: Can you laugh? Can you listen? Can you make somebody feel better than they did before they met you? If you answered no to all, then relax — you don't stand a chance.

Match.com

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