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Is
it possible find a man who wants to be serious?
Dear
Coco,
What
is wrong with single men? I want a relationship that leads to marriage
and kids, and at thirty-four I can't afford to waste my time. Am
I just really unlucky or do men stop their mental development after
they get out of high school? They often want sex without a relationship
(something I never do), or they are too busy with their careers.
What do I have to do to be taken seriously? I haven't dated a guy
longer than a month in over three years. Is it possible in this
day and age to find a man who wants to get serious?
End
of my Rope
Dear
Rope,
Take
a few deep breaths. Your anxieties are turning you into the dating
equivalent of a circus freak; it’s no wonder the men run screaming.
If you want them to stick around you need to lighten up in a major
way. Quit husband-hunting!
That's
right — all thoughts of wedding receptions and seating charts
and monogrammed napkins are heretofore forbidden. Ditch the rules
and make a decision to date for fun only. Do not think of trying
to turn the men you date into husband — or even boyfriend-material;
simply focus on whether you enjoy their company on that particular
night. Date as many of them as you can at once, but if they ask
if you want to go steady, shake your head wistfully and say, "You
know, it's not a good time for me...." You will seem fun and
cool and perhaps slightly tragic, as though nursing some mysterious
and impenetrable wound. Guys will desire you all the more, and one
of them will fall in love with your freaky, circus-lady self.
Match
Advice by Coco
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